Happy Anniversary...

Anniversaries for widowed people are difficult for their friends.

Even for those who have themselves walked widowhood.

 

I never know how to acknowledge it.

"Happy anniversary" isn't right,

they aren't "happy" 

because their anniversary partner isn't here.

Ignoring it isn't right,

that makes them feel even more alone

like their spouse has been forgotten by others.

Acknowledging it the way you did last year isn't right,

each year is so different.

Last year's comfort

is sometimes this year's salt in the wound

and vice versa.

As time goes on,

the day may even finally pass by unnoticed,

and a reminder may be unappreciated.

And yet, one wants the door to remembering conversation

open wide if they choose to walk through it.

Don't make them knock,

they probably won't;

and don't push them through if they don't want to go.

So what is a person to do?

 

This year,

this is my only acknowledgement.

I'm thinking of you, my Love,

I'm praying that this day is filled with

    sweet memories,

        secret smiles,

            sad happiness,

                and profound gratitude for the years you shared

as you commemorate the day.

 

 I remember the days of old; 

I meditate on all Your works; 

I muse on the work of Your Hand.

                ~~ Psalm 143:5 NKJV ~~